July 27, 2015
Anyone who has phoned or visited the One In Four offices probably knows Ann Marie.
As our receptionist, her calming voice and smiling face are so important. When someone finds the courage to pick up the phone and reach out for help, Ann Marie is there to guide them.
Earlier this year Ann Marie took on a Weight Loss Challenge - shedding over 2 stone and raising nearly €1000 for the work we do.
We're all really proud of what Ann Marie achieved in her fundraiser, but also of what she does every single day.
July 23, 2015
Last week in Dublin a convicted sex offender was tracked down by vigilantes and beaten up. Images appeared on social media and it became a national news story. I’m sure many people had little sympathy for the offender, given the terror we all feel that children we know may be abused.
But did this really help keep children safe?
We estimate that fewer than 5% of child sex abusers are ever convicted and imprisoned. This means that there are actually thousands of offenders living in our communities and maybe even in our families without our knowing it. Even though it goes against our instincts, we need to move beyond our anger and our fear and to consider with cool heads what really keeps children safe.
All the international research tells us that if sex offenders are hounded out of localities, they may go underground and then become really dangerous. The Gardai and probation officers who are monitoring them may lose track of them so they are completely without supervision.
The research also tells us that if the statutory agencies and communities work to support the offender, through projects like Circles of Support, then children are safer. Offenders who have meaningful work, a decent place to live and supportive relationships are much less likely to re-offend.
And we also know that good treatment programmes work. Here at One in Four we have worked with 119 offenders over the past six years and, to our knowledge, only four have re-offended.
The sexual abuse of children is a terrible crime with horrendous consequences for survivors as they move through life. It is easy to allow our anger and disgust to overwhelm us and to lead us into the kind of ugly scenes we saw last week.
That may make us feel better but it won’t keep children safe.
July 20, 2015
Are you looking for a challenge?
One In Four's supporters and staff are getting ready for 3 challenges coming up in the next few months...and we want you to join us...
September 12th 2015
The return of our dragon boat racing down on Grand Canal, Dublin 2. Nice and relaxed, it's always a fun day out!
September 12th 2015
If you want a real challenge, this tough 7km obstacle course will push you to your limits.
October 17th 2015
A messy, but not-too-difficult 5km obstacle course. Bring a change of clothes :-)
Will you challenge yourself?
Will you, your friends and your family join us?
Will you help us fundraise for an Ireland where children are safe from the threat of sexual abuse?
Please let us know
which challenge you would like to take part in and we'll give you the help you need to do something amazing!
July 16, 2015
I heard her on the radio. She was describing how her life had been blighted. Thirty years later the abuse she had suffered was as clear in her mind as if no time had passed at all. She never really had a chance. She spent her life coming to terms with what was done to her as a child.
I felt guilty at how privileged I was by comparison – growing up in a loving family with parents who cared for me and my brothers and sisters, who gave us every opportunity they could. We had our moments and our fights but we never doubted that they loved us.
I felt helpless. There was nothing I could do for this woman. Or for the countless others we began to hear in the last few years – speaking out about the sexual abuse they suffered at the hands of religious, in institutions, and in their own homes.
Out of the blue, a friend asked me if I would volunteer as a Board Member for One in Four. “You work in PR and Marketing - give us some of your time and expertise. You can help us save money and get more out of stretched resources.”
I became a member of the Board of One in Four. It was – and is – the greatest privilege. My expertise plays a small part. I feel I am giving something back.
I have rarely met a group of people so dedicated, so totally committed. They work on the past and the present. Their counselors give ongoing therapy – sometimes for years - to the people whose stories I heard. They help them to re-build their lives. They fight on their behalf for justice. They protect children who may be at risk today.
One in Four is a small organization. Resources are limited. The need is great. €30,000 would provide five people with two years of therapy. It would provide 50 families where abuse has taken place with professional support.
It would, in the words of one victim, ‘help me live my life, not suffer it.’
Donal Cronin, Voluntary Board Member
July 9, 2015
For many years I have had the privilege of being an invited guest in someone’s life story through my work as a Psychotherapist. For the past 10 years this has been through my work in One in Four.
I have witnessed and heard great pain from these life stories where words such as trauma, violence, abandonment, loss of childhood, loss of family, loss of friends, and sometimes loss of community, become the norm in individuals narrative.
I often wondered how they had the resilience to go on. And more importantly that they wanted to have a new life story - remembering the old but not staying in it.
One day one of them told me, "Eileen ‘I have been to Hell and Back’. I made it through all the obstacles with cuts and bruises but I made it and it feels great."
The changes they felt following engaging with an organisation like One in Four, they described as life changing. This ignited a deep feeling in me of wanting to honour their journey and hence I have decided to do Hell and Back.
I hope you will help me by:
(2) Sharing this page.
(3) Joining me for your own Hell & Back, and help us raise money for One In Four.