I cannot say I know what you are going throughHonestly, I do not know, I have not a clueBut what I do know is life moves onAnd with every bit of pain you become strongOur lives are lived perpetually in hopeDry your tears and you will soon copeI promise there is a light at the end of this roadThat will ease your mind and nourish your soulSo leave your hurt and fears on the floorAnd thank God for One In Four
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“It took me 10 years to finally realise I couldn’t get better or
move on and have a real life without someone’s help.”
Every day someone like Georgina walks through our doors.
Abused, more often than not, by someone they know and trusted. Traumatised. Confused. And when they take the brave decision to reach out, they need someone there for them.
But right now, there are still dozens of men and women like Georgina on our waiting list. You can be there for them. With a generous gift of €50 you can give the help and the support they need.
As Georgina explains, "I was terrorised and entrapped as a child against my will. Much of my adult experience of life had at its core terror and anxiety.”
“In my darkest hours I thought there was absolutely no way through. I believed that happy endings were for others and that the pain, terror and anxiety I felt were just too difficult to work through.”
“However, there is a way through and I am living proof of that.”
“I availed of One in Four’s group therapy. I met some very courageous people in the group. I took heart from hearing that other people’s experiences were similar to my own. With the help of professional psychotherapists, I was able to express my feelings and memories associated with abuse."
Asking for help can be the hardest thing in the world.
You have probably experienced that in your own life. Sometimes we all need help, but it can be difficult to ask. Do you remember ever feeling too scared to ask? Do you remember feeling embarrassed? Do you remember the fear that you would be ignored?
Every day survivors of sexual abuse visit or phone us here at One In Four and ask for help. And thanks to support from people like you, they will get help.
Now I’m writing to ask you for help.
You helped someone before. Will you do it again?
Will you reach out to help one more person? Will you make a very generous donation of €50 today?
Right now there are so many people on our waiting list – men and women who are suffering every day because of the sexual abuse and violence they experienced as a child.
Will you give them that help this Christmas?
These are someone’s sister or brother - someone’s son or daughter- who have taken the brave step of asking for help. But too many of them will sit on our waiting list for too long – because we cannot afford to see them all right now.
Your donation of €50, or whatever you can afford, will go towards making sure each man and woman that reaches out will get the help that they deserve.
“The very bad things that happened to me aren’t gone and can’t be forgotten. But they can be understood and accepted.”
“I am now living my life rather than suffering it.
The memories are becoming just that…memories.”
Your Christmas gift will give survivors of sexual abuse like Georgina the help and support they need to function, live and hope again.
You will change someone’s life.
You will help someone live again.
You’ve been so generous in the past with your support for survivors of sexual abuse. And because of you there is a man or woman beginning to see light where there once was darkness. Because of you there is hope.
Thank you so much for reading this far. I hope you and your loved ones will have a very happy and healthy Christmas.
Head of Fundraising
One In Four Ireland
Child Protection and the Counsellor / Psychotherapist
New legislation will introduce mandatory reporting of child abuse to Ireland for the first time shortly. This one day training course is designed for counsellors and psychotherapists working with adult survivors of child sexual abuse and explores the impact of mandatory reporting on their work.
The course addresses:
· A review of the new legislation
· Reporting to the statutory authorities
· Introducing the concept of mandatory reporting to clients
· Exploring the impact of mandatory reporting on the therapeutic relationship.
The course is facilitated by experienced One in Four staff therapists and advocacy officers.
The course is available to groups or organisations and to individuals.
Further details from Margaret at 01 6624070 or email@example.com
Voting Yes in the Children’s Referendum
Tomorrow we will vote on the Children’s Referendum. It may be the most important vote any of us get a chance to cast in our lifetimes. I will be voting “Yes”.
Every day at One in Four we meet men and women who were sexually abused as children, most of them in their own families. We see the suffering they have endured throughout their lives as a result. Many of them tried to tell about the abuse when it was happening but nobody listened and the abuse went on. Is this really what we want for our children now and for children in the future?
We all know that a loving family is the best place for a child to grow up, and for most children that is what they experience. But for some children, sadly, the family is the most dangerous place in the world.
If the Referendum is passed, the best interest of the child will have to be at the centre of all decisions concerning them in relation to child protection, custody, access and adoption. The State will only be able to intervene in exceptional circumstances when there is a serious risk to the child. And the State will also be obliged to provide support to families who are struggling before it gets to the point where children would be taken into care. It is likely that fewer rather than more children will come into care as a result. But those who really need it will be protected.
In Ireland children have been sexually abused in their families, neighbourhoods, parishes and in the residential institutions while in the care of the State. We all know what can happen behind closed doors if children are silenced. In many cases neighbours and professionals suspected something was wrong but felt helpless to act. This Referendum will help to ensure that the voice of the child must be taken into account when decisions are being made about them. We must never again have a situation where children are not heeded when they try to tell us about abuse.
The barrister Geoffrey Shannon said recently that if this Referendum, fails, we will go back 100 years in our child protection system. If you have read the Kilkenny Incest Report or the Ryan Report or the Roscommon Report – do you really want to maintain that system? Vote Yes on Saturday and help to put our shameful past behind us.
November 9th 2012
A Day To Celebrate
SEPTEMBER 19TH 2012
Today is a day to celebrate. For everybody who has suffered in childhood, for parents, for all the people who work with and for children, we should remember September 19th 2012. After twenty years of talk and promises, the wording for a children’s referendum has finally been published
The wording published today is robust but balanced. It places the best interest of the child at the heart of all decisions regarding a child’s welfare and protection, and ensures that where appropriate, the child’s views will be taken into account in making those decisions. We are especially pleased that the wording contains the word “shall” rather than “may”, which will create an imperative for the Courts or any other agencies to consider always what is best for the child.“
Children of married parents who are in long-term care with no possibility of reconciliation with their families will be given a second chance of belonging to a loving family through adoption.
Some people have been concerned that a constitutional change would allow the State interfere unduly in family life. These fears should be allayed today. The State can only intervene in exceptional cases in a manner proportionate to the extent to which the safety or welfare of the child is at risk.
Reports going back twenty years have exposed the dark side of Irish society and have questioned our fondly held belief that Ireland is a good place to be a child. At One in Four we work with men and women who were raped and sexually assaulted when they were children and whose lives have been devastated. Most were sexually abused in their own families. In many situations the abuse could have been stopped or prevented if only adults had acted. I believe that if passed this Referendum will help to ensure that the learning from the terrible Reports will be put into practice and that we will create a culture where every adult knows that they are responsible for the wellbeing every child.
Of course for this to happen we have to make sure that the referendum will be passed.