The difference we make Client stories Client stories MARTINA'S STORY My cousin was like a big sister to me, we lived on the same street. She got married young. It was her husband who started abusing me: One big family, eh? Yeah, that’s what everyone used to say, I remember him saying it a lot. My cousin had a baby. So after a while, they needed a babysitter. He puts lots of effort into me staying over, and that’s when it all started, Just a few weeks before my 14th birthday. He seemed so kind, so helpful, but he tricked me. I told him he couldn’t do it, he told me he would tell everyone, and my cousin would never speak to me again. I just felt helpless. One of the hardest things now is being with all my family, and having to be in a room with him. I did confront him. I told my best friend, my cousin, but she said you’re a liar” “it was horseplay” and it was never mentioned again after that. The abuse started a volcano of pain that would comes up and goes down, but it never goes away. Group therapy took me a long long time to take part in. But eventually, I started. As a teenager I had no trust, in anyone, it’s got better as I have grown up, I suppose because of the counseling I received at One in Four this has changed and I feel more positive about the future. He took my teenage years, but he wouldn't take my twenties from me. If I had to give other people advice I would say " to anyone who is looking for help, there is no better place to come to than One In Four." JANE'S STORY It started when I was really young, so young I can't really remember exactly. But at night time, as far back as I can remember I’d be lying in bed trying to fall asleep and my mind would wander. I’d get snagged on something that didn’t fit in, like a wrong puzzle piece mixed into the puzzle. Then, when I would direct my attention to it, it felt as if I had just been stung, like by a bee and my whole body would tighten up. Not easy when you’re 7. The abuse started again in my teens, by the same person, but this time I remembered every single thing. Over and over again. My teens were hellish because whatever my brain had done to protect me as a child just stopped working, and everything started to flood back in. Abuse doesn’t stop when the abuse stops, because for the rest of your life you’re still coming up against stuff that has something to do with it. Step by step, session by session, One in Four has been able to help me. They have helped me overcome the guilt, the shame, and find pathways to deal with things. There's still ups and downs but I am coping well. I look forward to things now, things really are ok.